Tips For Tuning Into What You Want In A Relationship

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You're swiping left and right on different dating apps.

The profiles that are filling up your screen appear to have parts and pieces of what you're looking for, but no one seems to be a 100% match.

You're trying to picture what you want in a partner and a relationship, but you can't quite picture it. When you try, it ends up looking a little bit like Frankenstein. Different parts and personalities blended together into a mess of a person. You definitely don't want that.

You didn't realize that finding what you're looking for would be this difficult.

Here are some tips for tuning into what you want in a relationship.

Take Care of Yourself

One of the best important things you can do for tuning into what you really want in a relationship is by putting yourself first. I know what you're thinking, if you're focusing on your own wants and needs, how are you supposed to find someone? Don't get ahead of yourself.

Taking the time to tune into your own thoughts, emotions, and feelings will help you in the long run. You can't love someone else until you love yourself first. And you can't help someone else if you don't have the time or energy. This means that you have to prioritize yourself for once!

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Practice Mindfulness

Try not to focus on the negative things in your life. There is nothing wrong with being single. That means that there is also nothing wrong with you being single. Take the time to figure out what you want and what you're looking for. Practicing mindfulness is a great way to let go of the past and stop worrying about the future. Mindfulness helps you stay grounded and focused on the present moment.

There are many different ways that you can practice mindfulness:

  • Body scan

  • Deep breathing

  • Explore one of your hobbies

  • Go on a vacation

  • Meditation

  • Take a break from social media

  • Try a new class

  • Volunteer

  • Yoga

Ask Yourself

Once you've met your basic needs as a human and have taken the time to be more mindful of your body, thoughts, and feelings, it's time to ask yourself what you need.

Make a list. Write down how you're feeling, what you want, and what you need. After you've made your list, go after it. Be clear about your wants and needs.

The list is the easy part. The next time you find yourself trying to avoid getting after one of the items on your list, remind yourself of the reasons why it's on your list. Whether it's a want or need, you deserve to be happy. Talking to yourself can be the confirmation and validation you need to continue the search for what you're looking for.

Lean on Loved Ones

Sometimes your close family and friends know you better than you even know yourself. Lean on the people that love you, care about you, and want what's best for you. Sometimes, it can be hard to show yourself the love you need and deserve. Your friends and family may be a lot more open about meeting your needs in this department. Ask your loved ones what you think you need and what you should be looking for. Bounce ideas off of one another. They can also be a great insight into past relationships and why they worked or didn't work.

Next Steps

It can be easier said than done to figure out exactly what you're looking for in your next relationship. The good news is that it doesn't have to be. Once you're feeling more connected to yourself, the process begins a lot easier.

If you're interested in learning more about listening to your inner voice and expressing your thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs, talking with an outside third party may be exactly what you need.

Reach out to me today if you're interested in learning more about anxiety therapy and how it can help you.