Dating When You Have A Busy Life: What To Remember

Let's face it: you're busy.

You spend the majority of your time at work. When you're not working, which is rare, you're running errands, doing yard work, coming up with projects for your house, hanging out with friends, taking care of your family, and somehow finding time for your goals, hobbies, and a little self-care. You can barely fit in everything you need and want to do in a typical week.

In addition to being busy, you're also very much single. Busy and single. The two don't exactly work together. How are you supposed to find time to date when your days are jampacked as it is?

Here are some things to remember when you're trying to date while having a busy life.

Keep an Open Mind

Whenever you're trying to date, it's always a good idea to keep an open mind. When it comes to dating, you're going to be dealing with a lot of different types of people with a lot of different personalities. You never know what traits or qualities you may be attracted to unless you give it a try. Plus, keeping an open mind can help you maintain positivity through the dating process. This type of energy can attract more people than if you were closed off and reserved.

Be Realistic About Your Schedule

Be honest with yourself. Are you really too busy? You may actually be using your schedule or busyness as a way to avoid dating. It's normal to be a little uncertain or anxious about dating. It can be a scary and nerve-wracking process. Dating involves getting comfortable with getting uncomfortable. You're putting yourself out there, talking and meeting with complete strangers, and taking risks to see if you have a connection. Be realistic with yourself and where you actually are in your dating journey. If you're not quite ready to date yet, that's okay too.

Give Online Dating a Try

Online dating is a great way to try to date on your own terms and timeframe instead of spending time and money getting ready and going on dates. Online dating is a great way to get to know someone from the comfort of your own home, on your own schedule. You can message interests at any time during your day, whenever works for you. After you build a connection, you can then decide if you want to take it a step further and meet in person.

Make a Date One of Your Hobbies

If you're feeling like you don't have time to date, why don't you turn one of your hobbies into a date? You can find a shared interest, connection, or hobby with a potential date and can cross two things off of your busy schedule and to-do list. If you like hiking on the weekends, invite your date to hike a trail with you. Maybe you spend your weekends getting ready for the week ahead. If that's the case, go on a grocery shopping date and cook some meals together. You can make your busy schedule work for both of you.

Next Steps

It is possible to date and still have a busy life. You're not alone if you feel like you can't fit everything in your day or week. Life has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes you may be extremely busy and other times your schedule may be wide open. As long as you're open and honest about your schedule with any potential dates, you shouldn't have a problem if you're ready to date. Plus, this can help weed out any people who may not be a good fit for you and your schedule.

Give yourself a little grace. If you need a little extra help trying to balance it all, we're here to help. Reach out today to set up a consultation for couples counseling.