4 Thing to Remember When Dealing With Grief

Life and death are two knowns in this world. That being said, knowing that death is going to happen doesn't mean it makes it any easier when it actually happens.

Any type of change can be hard to adjust to, especially permanent changes. The loss of something or someone that you once loved can be a tough adjustment for anyone to go through.

Everyone will experience some type of loss and grief throughout their lifetime. Even though everyone will experience grief at least once, it can be difficult to navigate.

Here are 4 things to remember when dealing with grief.

1. There isn't a Rule Book to Follow.

When it comes to grief, there isn't a rule book on how to deal with it. There isn't even a right or a wrong way to handle it. Grief is unique to each individual person. Grief is often associated with five different stages: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Most people don't follow the stages exactly as they're laid out. For example, someone may start with denial and skip over anger right to depression. You have to deal with grief on your own terms.

2. Lean on Your Loved Ones.

Although it may feel like you're alone right now, you have a support system that is ready and available to help you no matter what. Despite your body and brain telling you to withdraw and self-isolate, don't! This can actually lead to worsening signs and symptoms. Your support system is there for you through the good times and the bad just like you'd be there for them no matter what. Allow them to be there for you. Lean on them for support during this time. Let them know what you need from them. You may need a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to you, or advice on how to move forward. Whatever you need, let them help you.

3. Allow Yourself to Feel.

When it comes to grief, you can't put a date on the calendar and expect to feel better by a certain timeframe. The timeframe for grief varies from person to person. Some people will feel better within a few weeks. Others may take a few months. And for some, their grieving process may take a year or two. Allowing yourself to actually feel all of your feeling can help you naturally go through the stages of grief. The longer you keep burying your true feelings, the longer the grieving process will take. You're going to feel like you're on a rollercoaster of emotions. This is completely normal. You have to allow yourself to actually feel everything and acknowledge your feelings. Acknowledgment, acceptance, and allowing yourself to feel are key to healing during this time.

4. You Don't Have to Deal With It All On Your Own.

If you're noticing that the signs and symptoms of your grief aren't going away on their own, even with the help of some coping techniques, you may need to seek additional support from an outside third party. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. In fact, asking for help actually shows how strong you are.

A licensed and trained mental health professional can give you the guidance and listening ear you're looking for to help you process all of the thoughts and emotions you may be experiencing. They'll be able to work through you, give you some coping mechanisms to follow, and help you get on a path toward healing. Remember, grief isn't something that comes naturally for anyone. It isn't something that is easy to handle. You don't have to carry this all on your own.

If you're interested in learning more about grief counseling or depression treatment, reach out today to set up a consultation.