5 Ways To Fix Communication In A Relationship

When you first met your partner, you were two peas in a pod.

Everything just worked. It felt easy, natural, and right. You hardly ever argued. You both always seemed to be on the same page. Sure, you each had your own opinions, beliefs, wants, and needs, but you were able to see both sides, respect one another, and agree to disagree.

But somewhere along the way, the communication started to dwindle. The disagreements are increasing. There seems to be little to no compromise lately. You still love your partner, but you're hoping to get back to how it was when you first started dating again.

You've loved how your relationship has grown and developed, so you don't want to go back to square one again. You do want to press pause and figure out how you both can get back to communicating in a more effective way again. You know it's possible, but you're not quite sure where to start.

We're here to help! Here are 4 ways to fix communication in a relationship.

1. Choose Your Words Carefully

First things first, make sure you're choosing your words carefully. No matter if you're in a positive or negative conversation, it's important to make sure that you're thinking before you're speaking so that you're being proactive rather than reactive. This is even more true during some of those difficult conversations. You don't want to get defensive or say things that are hurtful that you can't take back. Something that can be extremely helpful is by using "I" statements over "You" statements. This simple word change can help to prevent your partner from feeling like they need to defend themselves. Speak to how you're feeling, not the actions of your partner.

2. Be Open and Honest

One of the best ways to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page is by being open and honest with one another. You wouldn't want to try to guess what your partner is feeling or thinking, so don't expect for them to do the same with you. If you want something or expect something out of your partner, you need to be clear and direct with them and express those wishes. They should be able to do the same with you. Relationships are a two-way street. You have to give a little to get a little. You both have to be willing to compromise.

3. Listen

Conversations don't mean that you get to speak your mind without listening to your partner. When your partner is speaking with you, make sure that you're fully engaged and distraction-free. This means turning off the television and putting your cell phone away. Lean in, close your mouth, and open your ears. Don't try to think of the next thing to say while your partner is speaking to you. Make sure you're listening and asking questions if you need clarification on anything.

4. Go to Couples Counseling

Couples counseling is great for any couple, no matter if the communication is great or needs a little improvement. Going to therapy as a couple doesn't mean your relationship is over. In fact, it actually means that you and your partner are both willing to put in the time and dedication to make it work. A therapist can be a great way for couples to air out any of their grievances in a safe and secure environment. Having that perspective from a licensed and trained outside third party can be a great way to street any conversation in the right direction.

If you're interested in individual therapy, couples therapy, or a combination of the two, reach out today to set up a consultation for couples counseling.